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Keep it real: OWN series in Charlotte
Five couples in ‘To Have and To Hold: Charlotte’
Published Thursday, May 30, 2019 12:45 am
by Ashley Mahoney | The Charlotte Post

The cast of Oprah Winfred Network’s realty program “To Have and To Hold: Charlotte.” The show debuts June 1 at 10 p.m.

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Reality television has arrived in Charlotte.

“To Have and To Hold: Charlotte” premieres on the Oprah Winfrey Network at 10 p.m. on June 1. From attorneys to entrepreneurs, the series tackles love, marriage, friendship and finding a way to balance it all in following the journey of five black couples. The couples include Ursula and Clinton Douglas; Peter Carey, Joshua Anglero and Juliana Anglero; Alane and Yandrick Paraison, Christine and Darhly Pulley as well as Judge Ty Hands and David Hands.

Comedian Nene Leakes introduced Judge Hands to entertainment attorney Wendy Credle, an executive producer on the show. Credle noted that Hands did not have a stereotypical judicial personality, as she has a very busy social calendar.

“We talked, and she took that idea to some production companies, and ran with it,” Hands said. “It evolved into a show about couples, and several couples here in Charlotte. It just grew from there.”

Hands noted the negative stereotypes surrounding reality television.

“I know that sometimes when people think reality TV, they think craziness, fighting, and a lot of foolishness, but my goal when I agreed to be a part of this project was to create something that could make the black community proud.”

Hands pointed out that the show explores the challenges of daily life, but not in a way that degrades the show’s subjects.

“All TV has to come with a little bit of drama, but goal in participating was to create something that did not embarrass us, or make us look crazy,” she said. “We were really excited to have the blessing of Oprah because I really believe that Oprah would only take pride in a quality product. That made me a little less worried about the show going in a negative direction.”

Ty Hands is a Mecklenburg County juvenile court judge, while husband David is a transactional attorney. They have two sons, Devin and David Jr.
“We are both busy professionals, but our family always comes first,” Hands said.
Finding time to film proved problematic.

 “It was stressful,” Hands said. “I work full-time, and I cannot film during the day. I was evenings and weekends. It’s like a fulltime job, to get enough content. That was the most difficult and stressful part of it—filming on evenings and weekends.”

The power couple experienced a tough year.

“We have had to really learn how to hone in on the importance of family, and be careful not to let all of the other distractions, like your profession or organizations that you might be a member of, or boards you might serve on, get in the way of family.”

The couple take an annual cruise, spending spring break in Saint Martin, Puerto Rico and Haiti this year.

Hands’ mother, Karline Turner, died when Hands was 3 years old, and her father was not part of her childhood. Her aunt and uncle, Mary and Federico Beevers, raised her in Las Vegas.

“I speak fluent Spanish,” Hands said. “My boys speak fluent Spanish. That’s another passion of mine. I was raised by my aunt and uncle, and my uncle is Dominican. I’ve always had that Latino influence.”

A key figure in Hands’ life has always been her grandfather, Carl Miller, who lives near Winton-Salem. Growing up, Hands knew that she would attend an HBCU, eventually deciding on Winston-Salem State University based on the proximity to her grandfather.

“My grandfather on my mom’s side lives right around the corner from Winston-Salem,” said Hands, who was the first in her family to attend college, and earned her law degree from UNC-Chapel Hill. “I was the oldest grandchild, and they were like, ‘we are going to send this grandchild to college.’ The plan was always to come to the East Coast to attend an HBCU of my choice. He continues to be a very impactful part of my life. He’s actually on the show.”

If she had to do it all over again, Judge Hands would still venture down the reality TV path.

“We availed ourselves of an opportunity for people to see that despite the fact that we present as a well put together couple and family, it is also important for people to understand that everybody has challenges,” she said. “It’s about how you work through these challenges, because I believe that me and my husband showed that even when you have trouble, it doesn’t have to be a knockdown, drag out craziness, that you can resolve conflict in a way that’s not just best for us, but keeping the children in mind, and keeping the family unit in mind, which really was important to us throughout this. I would definitely do this again.”

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Makes sense that Judge Ty Hands would be up for reality TV based on the fact that she gets off on being condescending and only concerned with feeling superior in court rather than getting fair outcomes for her clients. Really a shame that this woman has pretended her way into getting recognition for a community she clearly does not serve. Seriously check her out in Mecklenburg court
Posted on July 24, 2019
I am proud of you!
Posted on July 9, 2019
Ty Hands???? Not a good look for your show Oprah...a terrible biased and discriminating judge.
Posted on June 29, 2019
Please note the facts in this article are incorrect. I am the Creator of To Have & To Hold:Charlotte and the record needs to reflect that Judge Hands had nothing to do with the creation of this show. Her statements are a gross misrepresentation of the facts.
Posted on June 19, 2019

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