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Would you be mine?
A spiritual perspective on the meaning of Valentine’s Day
 
Published Monday, February 3, 2014
by Kimberly Lock

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Kimberly R. Lock, author of “Who You Callin’ Silly? How a Silly Woman Becomes Virtuous,” runs Unity Gospel House of Prayer in Milwaukee with her husband. She believes Valentine's is all about giving love to yourself and others.

The month of love is upon us. Feb. 14 is deemed as Valentine’s Day. During this time, we find the convenient stores filled with cute greeting cards, boxes of neatly wrapped assortments of candy and balloons gingerly waving through the air like a cool summer breeze. But what is Valentine’s Day really all about if there isn’t a special “someone” to share it with?

Oh, but there is someone who would like to share this day and every day with you.

The simple definition of love is that it gives. In fact, the Bible states that God loved the world so much that He gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in His son Jesus, would not perish but have eternal life.

Wow, you mean to tell me that someone loved us so much that they were willing to sacrifice their only child for us? God did that? Why yes He did.

Let’s be honest. Would you give one or any of your children, in hopes of possibly helping someone else, when there isn’t a guarantee that the person would even accept or better yet acknowledge your help or even your existence? Well, God did.

While we may not have to give such an ultimate sacrifice to reflect the characteristics of God, we certainly can demonstrate love in many other ways by loving ourselves as well as our neighbors:

Do something special for yourself

You don’t have to be with a special someone to express love. Show yourself that you love you. Pampering is one of the most relaxing and enjoyable ways to express love. It simply means that you cherish or admire someone and you’re devoted to that individual. You can also express that to yourself.

Give yourself a pat on the back for all of the hard work, dedication and commitment you have demonstrated on the job. Congratulate yourself on the accomplishments of rearing God-fearing children. After all, you’ve earned it. And remember, it’s not a sense of pride but a sense of gratitude for thanking God for entrusting you to carry out these obligations.

Pampering can be made affordable and does not require the first month’s rent to be handed over to the receptionist at the grandest of spas. A nice warm bath with candles and soft music should do the trick

Don’t bother stressing over dinner. Candlelight dinner doesn’t always require a seven-course meal. Pizza, a nice salad with all the trimmings made from your personal chef (you) can work just as well.

Afterwards, continue to unwind with a cup of tea or cocoa, a good movie and a box of chocolates.

 

Do something for others

Don’t want to spend Valentine’s Day alone? Consider spending time with family and friends. Maybe grandma and grandpa have a few love stories to share. Or maybe invite your siblings, other family members or closest friends over for dinner to express your love for them or treat an acquaintance that you haven’t seen in a while to lunch.

The key to love is that you are giving something of value to someone to demonstrate your admiration of that person. It doesn’t always mean spending money.

You can give your time. Visit a senior and play a fun game, read a book or look at old photographs and reminisce. Give your ear and listen to a close friend in time of need.

Inspire someone. Be a mentor or share advice and lessons you’ve learned through experience with someone younger than you who may be in need of some direction.

Give a second chance.

Give thanks.

For many of us giving isn’t easy because we must first give our hearts to Jesus to mend the broken pieces, where life has made us bitter. 

This Valentine’s Day, let us take the time to reflect on how we can love the way God has. After all, He says He is love. If we are made in His image and a reflection of Him, we should be able to demonstrate the type of love that He has. Whether you are single, married, separated, divorced or widowed, make this Valentine’s Day a celebration of love. Make it memorable.

Kimberly R. Lock is the author of “Who You Callin’ Silly? How a Silly Woman Becomes Virtuous.” She assists her husband in the business aspects of running Unity Gospel House of Prayer in Milwaukee, Wisconsin. You are invited to join the author and other once silly, now virtuous women at www.WhoYouCallinSilly.com.

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